Collaborative divorce is a relatively new, non-adversarial approach to divorce. It is focused on restructuring the family rather than destroying the individuals in it. In Ohio every year there are approximately 55 divorces for every 100 marriages. Said another way, about 6% of the population is marrying each year, but about 3.3% of the population suffers the pain of divorce. Roughly two-thirds of all divorces involve the first marriage of the wife or husband or both. Not quite 50% of all divorces affect minor children. This does not count the “children” who are over 18 but still an integral part of the family.
So divorce happens. Like marriage and birth of a child, divorce is a life changing event. The real issue is how much damage is going to be done? How much of the family’s resources are going to be invested in lawyers to fight over everything from the important things, like the children; to the really stupid stuff, like who is going to get the wedding china. In rational moments, most people – even those who really hate their spouse – realize that litigated divorce, ala War of the Roses, is a huge waste of precious resources and extremely damaging to all involved, especially the children. So if reconciliation is not possible, what is to be done?
The collaborative process offers a civilized and healing alternative to just filing for divorce and starting the war. It involves specific protocols and collaboratively trained attorneys. It provides a safe, private alternative to a public trial. It offers the opportunity for you to decide what the rest of your life is going to be like instead of leaving it to a judge who has never met you, your spouse or your family. It is a new approach to restructuring families that would otherwise head for divorce court.
Call us at (440) 892-0400 and let us explore with you whether collaborative divorce is the right process for you and your family. Avoid the damage of litigation and let us work with you. It is worth your time to call us.
 Marriage and Divorce Rates and other Selected Statistics, by County, Ohio, 2008. Ohio Department of Health, Center for Public Health Statistics and Informatics.